Let's get one thing straight: I have no idea about fashion. A lot of the time, I flip through those sections of my magazines without even a second glance because a) I don't really care and b) the clothes are just not my taste.
I don't really a have a "style," so to speak. I guess if I had to label it, it would be comfortable mixed with conservative-classy, with hints of edge every now and then. Yeah, I tend not to fit anywhere, really. But that's okay.
So why am I talking about this?
Last Friday, I went to my charity event in a beautiful dress that I looked pretty damn good in. But I didn't feel comfortable. I knew I looked good but I felt like I was faking it, like this wasn't me. Like I was pretending to be someone I wasn't. Luckily, my friend was there and kicked my butt about saying so and I enjoyed the night.
I realized that clothes that typically are supposed to make girls feel beautiful: prom dresses, wedding dresses, that sort of thing; and sexy: mini skirts, short dresses, don't really make me feel that way, whether I know I look good in them or not.
As such, I found that the clothes I feel sexy in are simply jeans and a t-shirt, flip flops, converses, or a pair of amazing boots. That's me. My hair's down. I have minimal if any makeup on. I can't explain why, but in that outfit, I have swagger. In a cocktail dress, I'm afraid everyone can tell I'm pretending.
And then this led to an even bigger realization - which, for you fashion people, is probably common sense and I apologize for my ignorance - Fashion isn't about what you wear, but what you feel when you wear clothes.
Confidence is sexy, and I feel confident in jeans. Ergo, if I'm meeting someone important - a hockey player, perhaps? - I should probably dress jeans. No, I probably won't reveal too much skin and thus won't be dubbed as 'sexy,' but I'll be myself and as cheesy as that sounds, that's what matters.
So wear whatever it is that makes you comfortable. Be confident, because when you are, you shine.
*On a related note, my mother and I were heading to the grocery store, and I turned to her and said, "I feel like a supermodel today." She turned to me and said, "You should feel like a supermodel every day."
So every time I step out of the house, I try and think like that: I don't care if I'm wearing sweats or jeans or a sundress, I pretend I'm a supermodel on a runway. And you should feel that way too because in one way or the other, aren't we all supermodels? (Okay, I know, I know, that was bad.)